What If I Don't Know Where I Want to Go?

I posted up an #AskHerMore meme this week asking you “if you could have a month-long Wild retreat, where would you go?.

I got a really interesting question back from one of the writing group connections I have.

“What if I don’t know where I want to go?"

I got curious.

Was this to do with having too many options to choose from?

Did she not have any idea of where she felt drawn to explore?

Or, was it something else.

My instinct was to ask had she given herself permission to experience other ways of living, or places to call “home” for a little while?

I could have considered “what if she has everything she needs, where she is, and that’s where she needs to be?”.

But somehow, the original question had a yearning in it. A need to know.

People asked me this week, “why did you choose Morocco for your retreat?”. (I just spent a month in Marrakech, though I'm also hosting a week-long retreat there in March 2016!).

My instinct was to say, “why not?”, but instead, I tried to make sense of the choice.

“It’s near to home, yet offers a chance to experience how women live in other non-Westernised cultures” “It has cheap flights & is easy to get to.” 

What would have been more honest to say was:

“I just felt drawn to it."

“My intuition told me I had to go."

“My heart wanted to be there."

"I needed to get out of London, to get a fresh perspective."

“I didn’t really plan it for long, I just followed the pull towards the place."

“I got a sense it would suite me well, and bring alive my Wild Woman."

Wouldn’t it have been a more interesting conversation if I’d spoken my truth?

I always think I do, but these little moments remind me that we always have to be mindful of times we revert to our old habits, of justifying decisions we made with our heart or intuition, as if it were our strategic-thinking that chose for us. Yes, there were logical things that I did consider, but after my heart had said, "let's go to Morocco!"

As creative, entrepreneurial Wild Women, you'll have already noticed, that it's your heart and intuition that can give you the most honest answer or decision.

What we don’t do often enough though, are these 3 things:

1. Give ourselves the time and space to feel what our heart and intuition want.

2. Let our feminine-intuition and heart's-desire guide us, especially in business.

3. Express what we intuitively know our heart feels is the right way, without justifying ourselves or our decisions to others in a way we think they would understand more.

I wonder, if we did more of those 3 things, whether we would always really know where we wanted to go, and feel confident to say it aloud?

Even if it is just a sense of the energy of the place – an unknown town or an image of an imagined place – we'd know what type of space we want to steep our wonderful, wild creative souls in. (Some conversations with trusted friends or a Coach, plus travel research can help us get clear on the rest!)

First, it might also help to make room in your diary, to go sit and be still. Meditate if you do. And ask yourself the question: "where do I want to go?". 

There is no right or wrong answer.

Simply listen, and get curious to what answer pops up.

Love, Marie x


Marie Milligan

I'm the Founder of Wild Women Do, a coaching network and movement for creative, entrepreneurial women needing support to create and launch something inspirational. A Holistic Business Coach, Entrepreneurship Educator and Writer, I love nothing better than helping you release your creative spirit, and get your ideas expressed and done.