Coaching Exercise: A Letter from Your Future Self

Image: Marie Milligan 2015. Writing desk & view from Riad Jardin Secret, Marrakech

Image: Marie Milligan 2015. Writing desk & view from Riad Jardin Secret, Marrakech

I always am amazed at the wisdom we have inside ourselves whenever we write from the perspective of our future selves. A great example of that is shown in this wonderful Posthumous letter to her daughter Caitlin writes from her imaginary future "dead" self.

What I love about writing letters in this way is it reminds us that we DO know how we want to live, we DO know how we want to show up, and we DO know what really matters to us.

This 'future self' perspective gives us permission to say aloud the truths we already know intuitively, but perhaps aren't living yet. Why? Have we the courage to live them? Is it that we need more time to rebel against what's 'good for us' first?

Whatever the reason, I'd love for us to start living our truth now so it doesn't take a letter on our death-bed (or sooner) to declare the way we wished we'd lived.

If you'd like to, try this reflective coaching exercise to see what values you want to champion in your life now.

1. Take out your notepad and pen. 
2. Sit in a place that enables you to feel tranquil. 
3. Turn off all appliances that might beep and disturb you.
4. Writing from the perspective of your Wild & Wise Future Self, start a letter to your present self, starting with the prompt:

"Dear Present Self, I would love you to ..."

Tip: Consider writing what you'd love your present self to know (about who she really is, what she wants, what she can do, what is important in the world...). Perhaps write what you'd love her to feel, to do, to accept, to let go of...Play with it, and see what comes up for you.

5. After you've written your letter, read it back, and make a note of what key values seem important for you to have right now, today.

I.e. If you write something like, "I would love you to recognise that you don't have to do it all alone...", the value wanted or needed might be 'support'.

I.e. If you write something like, "I would love you to let go of those jerks who are holding you back...", the value might be 'acceptance' or 'self-worth' or 'courage'.

6. If it helps, you might want to do this exercise with a friend or within a group you're part of (writing club, book club, coaching club). By doing it with someone else, you can then talk about what it was like to do the exercise and share feelings that are popping up as a result.

If you'd like to, please share what it was like to do the exercise with us in the comments below. If you'd like to share what it was like in confidence, then I'm happy to hold accountability for you, just email

Whatever comes up for you, please be gentle on yourself. You are doing amazingly well and life is about evolution and learning as you go.

Marie x

Marie Milligan

I'm the Founder of Wild Women Do, a coaching network and movement for creative, entrepreneurial women needing support to create and launch something inspirational. A Holistic Business Coach, Entrepreneurship Educator and Writer, I love nothing better than helping you release your creative spirit, and get your ideas expressed and done.